Therapy for Men
Values-based therapy in Austin, Texas and online throughout Texas and Florida.
Counseling for Men throughout Texas who are tired of feeling stuck.
Despite your best efforts, no amount of internet searches, podcasts, or self-help books has yielded the answers for the problems you’ve been having, or the way you’ve been feeling. Every day you feel like you’re spinning your wheels- working hard, but ultimately going nowhere.
You’re tired of this shit.
This is especially frustrating because normally you’re an excellent problem solver. Why can't you figure this thing out? What’s wrong with you?
I may not know you yet, but I do know this: there's nothing fundamentally wrong with you. I reject the premise that you're a problem to be fixed. You're a human being struggling with some very human shit who hasn't found the right support yet. Whether you're in the midst of a full-blown crisis, a life transition that's thrown you off, or asking existential questions about your life and future, I'd love to help.
I'm Hilary, a therapist in Austin, Texas, and I’m passionate about working with men.
I’ve had lots of close relationships with men in my life, starting with my dad, then two brothers, a cast of close male friends, past partners, my husband and my incredible male clients who have trusted me with their stories. Over the years they’ve opened up to me, sharing the real, raw issues that keep men up at night. The things they too often carry alone.
I've seen the vulnerability beneath the stoicism, the insecurities beneath the bravado, the fear beneath the anger, the earnest yearnings beneath the cynicism. I’ve seen how the pressure to perform in every area of life eats away at men’s souls. And most importantly, I’ve seen how that burden from carrying heavy things alone can be lifted when we finally let people in.
As a female therapist, I bring a perspective you might not get from your guy friends. I invite skepticism and directness and see them as resources, not resistance. Tenderness and toughness aren't mutually exclusive, even if internet masculinity “experts” might say otherwise. I'm not here to break down your defenses without purpose. I'm here to help you use them intentionally, so they don't hold you back from doing more of what matters to you and from becoming the person you want to be.
You deserve support. I'd like to help you change the story that says you don't.
If that sounds familiar, I’m glad you’re here.
How I Can Help
Take a look at some common focus areas, who I tend to work with, and what you can expect to get out of therapy regardless of what brings you here.
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Some common areas of focus include:
Chronic stress, anxiety and overwhelm
Irritability and angry outbursts
Issues around intimacy, dating and loneliness
Relationship concerns with a partner, family member, or loved one
Processing a significant life event or transition - breakups, infidelity, a loss, parenthood, a big move or job change
Existential concerns about meaning, purpose and death or aging
Being overly hard on yourself; constantly beating yourself up
Feeling inadequate or like a failure
Insecurities about your body or concerns about your relationship with food or fitness
Drinking or using substances more than you want to
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My clients tend to be:
Adults 18+
Deep thinkers, questioners and skeptics
First time therapy goers
Folks with dry, often dark senses of humor
Guys who feel behind in life or like a “late bloomer”
High achievers who don’t know how to slow down
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Insight into the root of your concerns
A space to say the things you can't say anywhere else
Honest feedback from someone who cares about your personal growth
Research-backed tools to improve communication, manage conflict, and increase emotional intelligence
A low-stakes environment to practice new skills
You’ve been figuring this out alone long enough. Reach out today, and let’s talk about how therapy can help.
Still have questions? Ask me anything.
Not ready to book yet? Send me a message, and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours.
Please note: I provide outpatient counseling support through scheduled appointments only. If you or someone you love is having a mental health emergency or is experiencing a crisis, please dial 988 for the 24/7 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, dial 911, call the Travis County 24/7 Crisis Hotline 512-472-HELP (4357) or proceed to your nearest emergency room.